It's tough when your husband who its 5 inches higher now weighs 6 pounds less....

My new goal is 130. I want to see that scale say that even if there are .... after it.
So far my lowest was 131. no ....
Today 132...

Ben however was 125 and said ... oh I'm up a bit to 127 today.

What?  It's tough not to see this process as a competition, but I'm feeling VERY good and proud of where I am right now. My size 8 jeans are a bit big. (wow) but I won't by any more this season and just wear a belt. I am practically living in tights and stretch pants. They look awesome and fit no matter if I'm up or down a few pounds.

The huge difference between how I used to look (and feel ) is that now I wear tight tops!
Form fitting clothes show off the slim curves and flatter stomach. I really feel amazing. and I want to say this way,

Am I starving myself. NO. I am eating a lot including fruit and carbs (in moderation). I have dessert every night (maybe a bit too much) but because I make the desserts I know exactly what is in them and how many calories are in each. Black Bean brownies are awesome as are the coconut almond balls. I make double batches of most food now, I freeze some and keep some for a meal the second day. I make peanut butter oat bars for when we are in a hurry and need to grab and go. They are delicious... but 150 calories each. Ben has been eating at least 2 a day and STILL he's not gaining anything.

So - my thought is:
Let the scale go up and down, it will anyway.
Let your partner handle their own diet journey.
And when you finally reach that point where the person in the mirror is exactly what you always thought of yourself on the INSIDE be HAPPY.

And it's ok to cheat and eat what you are craving (pizza at baja pizza fish....I need some stat). You can't diet 24/7.

Let me know how you are doing with your weight loss!

Debtink@gmail.com

Meet my goal of 135 - but still going to loose a bit more

I'm at 135
Size went from XL to medium tops and 6-8 pants.
It does not seem real, but I'm pretty proud of me (and Ben) for getting the excess weight off.
Without as much fat, we are both freezing when it's cold (and winter is here)
Added some tight under layers top and bottom to hold in the heat!
Bought one top for Ben and he's a women's small.... omg

Thanksgiving feast at Ben's family on Sunday - I made my rolls, but only let myself eat a little.
No potatoes or stuffing or gravy etc. His aunt made 2 dishes especially for Ben and I! Stir fry of collard greens with peppers and zucchini... and stuffed zucchini with eggplant and other veggies and a bit of Mozzarella cheese.They were both awesome.

I did allow myself a small slice of pecan pie (could not resist)

Thanksgiving I'll be at my sis's who will have the whole,,, everything... starch and sugar extravaganza with alcohol.. I will eat everything that day.. it will be my day off for probably a month but it will be worth it!

So excited.

When your husband gets skinnier than you ever can

Ben tends to lie rather than answer truthfully. He says it's because "I'll get upset" but its really because he's LYING. I asked him a couple days ago (when I was stuck at 140lbs) how much he weighed and he said "oh... I go between 140 and 142"  Knowing he was exactly my weight gave me hope that I can be lighter than him.

Yesterday amazingly the scale read 139. whoop whoop  And I asked Ben again how much he weighs. First he lied and said he hasn't weighed himself. Then he said he was "about 138 or so".... and when finally pushed, he said "133"  WHAT?!  I threw my glasses on the counter and stormed out of the room. Thats a total lose of 57 lbs in 5 months. Everyone has been saying he has gotten too thin, and now I'm afraid if he eats like I am he'll loose even more. I got rather discouraged. But really, I was upset because he lied about it. I absolutely HATE being lied to. With him, it's either a lie, a half truth, or an embellished answer that takes the question so off topic that it's not the same at all. Then he turns it around to make it seem like I am getting off topic.

Ok, Enough husband rant.

He's skinny now, but drop dead sexy. And I know, even at 139 I am way thinner with curves than I was at 180. Ugh... I was actually as high as 185. For me, that is way too much.

Working out

I've joined a rec center with my sister. We plan on going together at 10am  M-W-F
Wednesday being a swim day.  I love the facility. There is almost no one there and there are tons of steppers, bikes, treadmills, free weights and resistance machines. I've not had to wait to use anything.

I'm a bit discouraged because it's been weeks since I've hovered between 140 and 142. I'm eating according to the plan, but I know I snack at night more than I should. And we have been eating out a bit - last night was the first time I've had bread in about 4 months. I had a pizza with bread crust and simple sauce, cheese and basil . It was tiny and I got the 1/2 size (I could have eaten much more).

I may have to accept that 140 is the weight my body wants to be. (I don't want to do that)

There are still places where I am fat, and I really want to get it off! My stomach is the biggest area, but also my arms and parts of my back and my thighs. Working out should help to tighten these areas. I'm not one who believes that "well, you are working out and muscle weights more than fat"... Pounds are pounds. Making my body move should ramp up my metabolism and help me get back to the 1 pound a week weight loss. Please please scale show me a number under 140. Help me to steadily loose the rest of the weight by Christmas. I've got 8 weeks (or so) ....

I do feel better at this weight. I can MOVE more. Once tight clothes are too loose. I have a WAIST again. And curves. And my breasts are smaller which is wonderful. I do not like having large breasts. My acid re-flux is almost non existent. And having Ben at his weight (we are now the same weight!) makes it awesome to put my arms around him.

I am afraid of the bounce back once we slip away from the diet. I can't bear the thought of being even 150. I don't want to fail and I want to feel this good all the time.

Finally found a way to loose the weight and keep it off

I'm at 140's - goal of 135 (currently) Considering at the start of this blog I was over 180, this is a big deal. I was at 180 again about a year ago, then lost 20 for my daughters wedding and gained 10 back... I felt and looked fat at 170 in my party dress and in the photos.

I was still at 170 about 5 months ago when my husband who had hit 190 decided it was time for both of us to finally loose the fat - together- and work together to keep it off.

He bought a book... quick meals for south beach diet. A book. We did not study the diet, or really know the basics - we just made the food from the book, let the meal plans give us ideas of how and what to eat. So in 5 months WITHOUT working out, I lost 30 and Ben lost 50!!! (men)  I am now working out with my sis and I hope with that and continuing the diet, I can reach my goal (or beyond) by Christmas.

So the secret:
Eat low fat or fat free food
Eat a good balance of meats and veggies
No bread, cereal, rice... starches in general
Don't eat empty calories (ok wine once in a while)
Eat sweets (like in the meal plan) - after dinner - Chocolate pudding made from Silky tofu, sugar substitute (I LOVE TRUVIA) and cocoa powder  ,,,, there are LOTS of recipes for sweets
Just no SUGAR.
Yes we drink diet sodas and diet snapple tea (love them) and we add sugar substitute to our coffee tea if we want..

But the real secret:
DONT DIET ALONE
By Ben and I doing this together- lts easy to cook and to help each other choose healthy options.